Is marriage becoming an outdated practice in a modern world? The media is constantly announcing a new study or a recent report about the decline in the percentages of people who are living in a stable marriage or family. Since so many people are opting out of taking marriage vows, the government must adjust to […]
I had a young person write to me at MarriageHelp.com and complain about my “old fashioned” ideas. This person was letting me know that our society had outgrown old rules about what we should expect from our sexual relationships. They had read my lesson called “No Sex before Marriage” where I taught about the value […]
This is the fourth lesson in this series and it asks the question, “What happens if you do face infidelity?” Does finding that your spouse was unfaithful mean that you must get a divorce? NO! It means you have a problem to deal with.
This third lesson in our four part series is entitled Keeping Inside the Fences. Normal human beings have a healthy fear of intimacy. Intimacy is dangerous and makes us very vulnerable to harm. We have a defensive “fence” around us to keep people away from us who are not our spouses or partners. Think of […]
This is the second lesson in the series “The Path to Infidelity” which I have entitled How to Lead a Healthy Life. After our discussion in the first lesson, we can now say, Okay, you are God’s Person. But what does that look like? First of all, if you are married, it means that you […]
You don’t have to be a sport’s superstar, a nationally known political leader or a television celebrity to know that sexual infidelity is disastrous! All you need to see are friends and coworkers, family and classmates, watch the evening news on TV or read the local newspaper, and you will see the “train wreck” that […]
I told my children as they were growing up, “Don’t give anyone the power to control your emotions!” How many times have you heard someone say, “That person makes me SO MAD”? Sometimes it is stated, “As soon as that guy walks into the room he gets me angry.” I have listened to many people […]
It is very easy to feel trapped and hopeless. One cannot give or receive love once hope is lost. We simply must not give up when we feel like we are at a dead end. Hope is still an option. Hope – When you are going through a troubled time from PastorBobDouglas on Vimeo.
When marriages run into problems, it is easy to feel like you are living in a war zone. Sometimes we treat our marriage partner like the enemy who is “out to get us”. We divide our world into “us” and “them” and trade shots back and forth. Pastor Bob teaches about how to love your […]
I hear it all the time, “I will NEVER forgive that person for what they did to me. I trusted them and they made me look like a fool. I will never give them another chance to stab me in the back again.” Betray my trust once, shame on you. Betray me twice, shame on […]
It is in your best interest to repair your relationship following a broken trust. I know there are many people screaming just the opposite viewpoint. They have experienced hurt and betrayal of every description and degree. I understand how hard it is to face an uncertain future with only a broken past for a reference […]
We have talked about how we cover up our deepest thoughts, feelings and desires. We have talked about how we can paint over the outsides without changing the insides. We have already discussed our desire to be seen as “unbroken people” even though we know the truth about ourselves. When those broken things show up […]
Nothing breaks our hearts more than when someone breaks our trust. We work with an assumed social contract with those people closest to us. The people we call our closest friends are assumed to be those people who would never do anything to harm us. We expect our friends to support us and encourage us. […]
This is the third lesson in our discussion of the Parent–Child-Adult within each one of us. I will be honest. Some people tell me that they have difficulty getting their minds around the idea that we have three different people living inside our heads! It is not hard for me because I have listened to […]
This is the second of three articles on the discussion on the Parent-Child-Adult within us. The discussion about the “Child” part of our personality is much more fun. The Child is that automatic, built-in emotional core of who we are. It is not learned because you will find a newly born infant crying his eyes […]
I was a very young father who was coping with being a part-time church custodian, a full-time student as well as having our first toddler at home. At one point I became frustrated with my young son and yelled, “If you do that again, I’ll nail your hide to the wall.” When he heard my […]
Nobody knows you better than your marriage partner. So no one can answer the question of how well you do your job as a husband or wife, better than they can. We all make mistakes. We don’t do it right all the time. So how do you handle this kind of guilt? How do you […]
Do you feel like you’ve drifted away from your spouse? How do you re-connect? How would you answer the puzzle we give you in this video? After you watch the video, drop me a note and let me know your answer. ….When you DRIFT Apart! from PastorBobDouglas on Vimeo.
There’s never a day you should not be bringing your “A Game” into your marriage relationship. If professional athletes accept advice and take lessons to improve their game, we should be willing to learn new ways to improve our marriage. Listen to the video and see where you can tweak it up a bit. You […]
I can just hear the screams of protest when people in our culture hear that the Bible makes it very clear that sex is for a HUSBAND and WIFE….and for no one else. That means before the marriage ceremony as well as after the marriage ceremony and excludes everyone except that one man and one […]
Our self esteem does not come from within ourselves, but from others. The value that we receive from our spouse, our family, our employer, and friends is what gives us our self esteem. Your Self Worth does not come from Yourself from PastorBobDouglas on Vimeo.