Freedom from Surprise Attacks

Rule #5: I love you enough to set a time to talk. DO NOT strike when your partner is unprepared. You must give your partner a chance to get ready, “cool, calm, and collected”. Don’t continue if you are caught off guard or are distracted. Both persons should feel rested (not late at night) wide awake (not early in the morning) and feeling comfortable and happy.

In an argument between two people the temptation is to attempt to win something.  When the goal is winning, you are free to use strategies that prove successful at winning the battles!  The use of “sucker punches” or surprise attacks are clearly successful strategies that win.  The opponent is caught off guard and off balance and, if the first blast is powerful enough, they will not even get a chance to counter the attack.

Marriage is NOT a war!

Maybe we should call it a “tug of war” because we can clearly picture what would happen if one side pulled suddenly on the rope before the other side was set and holding firmly on the rope.  One side pulls so hard that they fall over in a twisted pile and the other has the rope burning through their fingers.  Who “wins”?  Even though the marker shows that the pulling side got the ribbon over the goal line, both sides are “damaged” by the effort!  Everyone loses.