Freedom from Hopeless Repetition

Rule #2. I love you just the way you are. Some things CAN’T be changed. Some things you couldn’t change. I won’t ask you to change these. Backgrounds of family life or our “walk of faith”, personality, values, or Gifts that God has blessed us with… are most difficult to change. We just won’t argue about these things.

Rule # 2 is not something that we say out loud as Rule number 1 was, but it is rather something that we accept without argument.

Opposites really DO attract

There are many ways in which we can be opposites without being opposed to each other. There is something fundamental inside each of us that realizes there are things we need that we do not possess ourselves. The very quiet or shy people will often find mates who are outgoing and comfortable in social settings. Those who are conservative will often find themselves attracted to “free-spirits”. People who enjoy saving resources will find themselves married to someone who cannot leave a single dollar in their wallet unspent! I am afraid to even mention what the “neat” people have to put up with as they live with “slobs”.

It is almost as though God’s Spirit leads us to find the corresponding portions of our personalities that we need to keep us balanced. These differences are going to provide us plenty of opportunities to discuss and debate as our personalities interact. You will find that over time God’s Wisdom will have provided the right person for us so we are both spared the worst consequences of our individual personality types.